Writing your Own Wedding Vows

It usually seems that when something needs to be written, writers block is just around the corner - and we aren't talking about a school project here, this is about your Wedding Vows.

First of all, congratulations on deciding to take the time to write them yourself! Saying vows that you have written on your own can be one of the most romantic moments of your life - but no pressure!

We've decided to put together a few tips, ideas and tricks to help you along the path of writing your vows.

Here are some questions you might want to ask yourself and take notes on to get the creative juices flowing:

• When did you two first meet?
• At what point did you realize you were in love? Describe the feelings
• What life goals and dreams do you share?
• What qualities make your love unique?
• What inspires you about your significant other?
• What have you learned from each other?
• How has your life changed since you met this person?

After answering these questions, you should start to get an idea of what you want to express. For more help, try reading some of the vows that we have available on this site. Then sit down and start putting your ideas together and start writing a draft of your vows. Remember, for the certificates, there is a maximum of 400 spaces for each partner's vows. Enjoy the process!

If you're feeling shy, opt to write your vows together and even recite the exact same promises. If there's more you wish to say, privately, say it in the cards you exchange on the day of your wedding or on your honeymoon.

Make sure your Officiant will accept personalized vows. Catholic and Episcopal congregations, for instance, may require you to recite all or part of the traditional vows, though in most cases that's left to the Officiants discretion. Remember: Even the most accommodating Officiant will want to review your words in advance.